Meet Erin Pasquet
Posted on July 31 2018
PHOTO CREDIT: MICHELLE ROSE
Mom to:Baby P, age 3 months
Profession: model, birth/postpartum doula, lactation counselor, childbirth educator, pre/postnatal yoga and fitness instructor
A few months into your motherhood journey, what has been the best part of being Baby P's Mommy?
Watching him change daily. Every day he has a new development and it’s amazing to see this little person come into being.
What has been the most challenging part of being a new mom?
So much! Not “knowing” a lot and being challenged on parenting choices by others.
You became a doula before having your own children, what inspired you to do so?
Several close friends had babies and traumatic births which was difficult to witness as well as confusing since we live in NYC and have access to what I thought was amazing care. Shortly after, I watched “The Business of Being Born” and was fascinated. I spoke to my now doula partner, Emilie, about the birth of her daughter and her experience with her doulas. I researched birth and was horrified by what I learned. The U.S ranks quite low in comparison to other developed countries for maternal and infant mortality. These figures are even more abysmal for people of color. A POC is 3-4x more likely to die of maternal complications than a Caucasian person. This number jumps to 12x in NYC! Realizing that I fall into this category was scary and I wanted to get involved to change that.
As a doula what was it like to be on the other side of labor?
It was challenging and also really interesting. I didn’t have a labor like one I’ve ever attended. It was a long and slow induction. But because of my knowledge I was able to advocate and push for more of what I wanted in my birth with confidence and knowledge. I spent a lot of time in my head trying to doula myself (not helpful sometimes!) but one of the things about labor is that it inhibits those thoughts from coming out. Luckily my doula knows me well and was able to read my mind and support me exactly how I needed it without me saying a word.
What do you do for "me" time?
Oh I wish I had more “me” time. Right now it’s a shower. Simply 5 minutes alone in the shower. I’m trying to create more space for me as Baby P grows and can be slightly more independent to get back to my yoga practice.
What is one piece of advice you would pass on to other moms, whether it be for the pregnancy or the motherhood journey?
Surround yourself in a supportive community who you can share all of the nitty gritty with. They can be old friends, new friends, mom friends, online friends. Just have that support.
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