Q&A with Hailey Andresen
Posted on March 15 2017
What is the best part about motherhood?
Since becoming a mother I feel like I have a completely different perspective on life and love. There's something about watching the world through Owen's eyes that makes me want to be better in every sense.
What is the most challenging part of motherhood?
The most challenging part is balancing it all. I have found that making time for creative passions, work, my marriage, friendships, "me time" and Owen are all pieces of the puzzle. Without one you're left feeling incomplete and it's a constant juggling act making it happen.
How do you balance work and family?
We schedule a lot of our time. Seems silly to schedule it out, but for us, it's how we're able to do it all. Zack and I both work and have creative passions we are dedicated to, but we realize how important it is just to connect as a family without distraction. Every week we try to make Friday nights and Saturdays completely open. This time together makes all the hard work worth it. And since I work from home with Owen I make sure there are a few hours every day that are dedicated to just hanging with him without my computer or phone in hand - some days are harder than others, but we all benefit from undivided time together.
What is a typical day like for you?
Monday through Thursday our days are pretty routine. We normally have coffee while Owen has his breakfast and after Zack leaves for work I'll dig through emails for a bit while Owen plays. Since my actual job is based on the west coast, the mornings are typically mine and Owen's time. We hang around the house, go to the park, run errands, and walk and walk and walk to get Owen to take a later morning nap. Naps have been quite the struggle lately! If I get him to nap while were out and about I always carry my laptop so I can park at a coffee shop and get Household Mag. stuff done. Once he's up it's lunch time, and I work until about 5:00. It's challenging at times with Owen to get work done, but we just do a lot of moving around so I can make it happen - this means working on the floor with him while he plays, utilizing snack times and our exersaucer. After 5:00 it's dinner and bedtime routine. Depending on the day of the week our nights look different. Zack and I have developed a bit of a schedule to make sure we get our "me time." Mondays are my night, Tuesdays and Thursdays Zack does open mics (he's a comedian!), Wednesdays we work on our podcast and Fridays we typically go out to dinner and just relax as a family.
What do you do for “me time?”
Monday evenings and Friday afternoons have become my "me time." Mondays Zack hangs with Owen, and on Fridays, we have a sitter come. We just started this, and it's been so nice! Fridays I typically work on Household stuff and run errands or schedule appointments (funny how different "me time" looks after you have kids), but Monday nights are typically a little more fun, and less work focused. I'll go to yoga, grab dinner and drinks with a friend, or maybe even attend an event if it falls on a Monday.
What is one piece of advice you would pass on to other moms?
It can be easy to lose yourself in motherhood, but I encourage you to stay connected to you. Mom guilt is real, and sometimes you feel like you don't deserve time for yourself or a haircut or that new shirt you've been eyeing, but you deserve all of it. Taking care of yourself will undoubtedly make you a better mother.